Isn’t that what we all want from life? To feel happy? But what makes us happy? What are the actual components, ingredients, of happy? What does a happy day look like to you? For me, it’s having a sense of calm and accomplishment throughout the day. Calm if I don’t allow myself to be rushed. Knowing that I am doing what I can, and I’m doing it to the best of my ability. And that I’m getting shit done. The shit that I want done. Not what my boss or kids or PTA think I should be getting done. The things that are important to me. Even if they are things like laundry, making dinner, meeting that deadline and sitting for 10 minutes with the ones I love. Those things count!
I had a great day last Sunday. I allowed myself to think in terms of “next”. What do I want to do next? What feels like the right thing to do? Surprisingly, I got a ton of stuff done and still had plenty of ‘me’ time. I sat in the sun for 15 minutes. First warm sunny day in months and I wasn’t going to miss it. Then I thought that starting a load of laundry would be a good idea. So I did that, and went right back outside. Ten minutes later raking the garden felt like a good idea, so I did it. And I sat back down. Then I felt like getting the dirty dishes out of the sink. And I sat back down. On and on and on. All day long. And I managed to get more done, STRESS FREE, than I could have in a week of trying.
I was calm the entire day. I felt totally accomplished. I was at peace because I made room for my own time. And I was happy. So much so that I still remember that feeling 4 days later.
And I’m going to pat myself on the back for what I accomplished. I’m going to allow a sense of calm knowing that I did a darn good job. Did I get ‘everything’ done? Hell no. But I got a lot of shit done and I feel good about that.